Tiffany Nielsen

Adult and Youth Etiquette Workshops

Do This, Not That: RSVPs

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RSVPs. Anyone who is hosting an event needs them. Yet, it’s unreal how hard they often are to come by. While some guests are prompt to respond, others are not. It is helpful if we all remember to RSVP, and apologize when we forget.

Recently, I was invited to a bridal shower and I forgot to RSVP. UGH! I did give a verbal  “yes” to the bride, but I completely forgot to call her hostess. “YIKES!” says the Etiquette Lady.

I begged for her forgiveness and then spoiled the bride with gifts from her registry. I’ve since been redeemed.

Remember to always RSVP.

 

Anniversary Etiquette:The Etiquette for Gift Buying

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June 6th may be labeled “Doomsday,” but not for this Lassie and her Lad.

I’m loud and proud about David and me celebrating our 3rdwedding anniversary! It seems like yesterday when we met and began our journey.

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In the spirit of tradition, I decided to access an anniversary etiquette gift guide to help me buy the perfect present for my dearest husband. The guide shows what to shop for based on the number of years married. So, what is the gift for the 3rd year of marital bliss?  Leather.  I don’t suppose David will buy me the red leather Louis Vuitton purse I saw last week while surfing the web when I should have been working?  I don’t even suppose he knows that “leather” is on the list of gift ideas. Maybe that is to my advantage!?

Nevertheless, it is not the material gifts that matter but the spirit of celebrating the gift we gave to each other; the vow of love, hope and survival to fight for each other.

I love this guy and somehow, I’m pretty sure he feels the same way about me.

If you are at all wondering, I’m buying David a new pair of leather gloves to wear when he fixes fences and checks cows or when he feels like playing Cowboys and Indians with me.

Ask Tiffany: Can a Wedding Invitation Include the Registry?

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Dear Tiffany,

I’m getting married this August and I’m wondering if I should or shouldn’t include a registry gift guideline with my invitations. You know, an insert that lists where’s I’m registered?  I hear you aren’t supposed to, but I see more and more people including a gift registry card with their invitations.

-S. Kumpf- Mankato, MN

Dear Mannerly Bride,

Traditionally, soon –to-be married couples are to avoid inserting a registry shopping guide with their wedding invitations.  It can be considered by guests a presumptuous act. However, manners change with time; therefore, I see more often couples including a registry list with their invitations.

I am a traditionalist. I believe registries are best reserved for bridal shower invitations, and that wedding invitations remain the formal request to come witness the union of two people vowing to love, cherish, etc…But, a recent conversation with a traditionalist woman from the Baby Boomer generation begged me to consider it may no longer be presumptuous, but a matter of convenience to include a gift registry. “It saves me time,” she says. “I can go straight to the store or shop online and have the gift handled in no time.”

Time is of essence in this fast paced, busy world we live in. Therefore, I encourage you to ask yourself what you’d prefer if you were a wedding guest and if your personal list of wedding guests would concur with your decision. Congratulations on your engagement!